I must be a child. I also have a dinner lady, a mother and a teacher, and now I am a grandmother too. In all embodiMents, except the first, I have strong doubts, whether to persons or institutions are doing enough for children to prevent bullying and / or violence. I had doubts when I was a kid, though. I thought it was clear that adults do not take seriously the frightened children. I could not even apologize to them for reasons of ignorance. It was clearly well known, because aMost of the novels and movies for television for children who leave plots were isolated on a child in the face of a threat seems extreme.
Perhaps this is not right. Perhaps adults have simply forgotten how difficult it will be a male. Whatever the truth, I know it's still a problem because, as publisher and editor, I see that "the bat is coming!" is still one of the most spectacular opening in books for children of school age.
I have notlistening to Neil Marr and Tim Field's book "Bullycide: Death at Playtime" is the first time. I ran into some schools and community groups "to listen to anti-bullying initiatives that have helped the book, kick off, though, so now republished, I thought it would be a good time to look back and assess how far we have howsoever caused.
At that time the book was a case, flies in the face of a world that simply could not believe that young children werepushed to the point of suicide in schools and other institutions in which the authorities were not aware that bullying is "a problem". The case is very effective, they have made through the personal stories of children, teachers, community police officers and others who have direct experience of children who have suffered and more than a few cases, died. The book not only charts projects and studies, but the change of attitudes that were necessary - and in many cases still are - in orderof bullying are taken seriously. This is Pastor Stephen's father, the boy who was in 1967, Britain's first docuMented case of death due to bullying ...
You see, we have been the result of two generations of world wars. We were not doing anything, but actually fight back when cornered. Our people do not realize that things had changed. It is not those who fight you should, it's war. There was not much help for people like Stephen in a city as hard asInce. I wonder if there is a real help today.
In my opinion, is that the heart of the problem we had - and still have. If parents and teachers that the answer to bullying "by itself" - which means, once again, violence and abuse of more of the same - then there is no help for a child who is not a fighter - and photos and portraits of character in the book, most children who have resorted to suicide because of bullying, fighting not only toType. They still live in a society where the softness is something like a weakness, a mistake? I believe that what we are.
Denise Baillie has died at the age of 15, 8 April 2000, so that a suicide note and swallowing a handful of prescription pills from her mother before anyone knew they were serious difficulties.
Denise case is an example of the embarrassing tendency to keep their children at risk of problems for themselves, even because of being bullied. Modern school and community carerstend to be immediately self-harm, depression and other Mental health problems, as they are concerned about bullying, but they are aware of the seriousness of the problems caused by feelings of isolation and guilt - and these are the feelings that bullies' tactics to create . These excerpts from a commentary by author Tim Field on the death of Denise Baillie: ... Denise has refused to exonerate himself and then to transfer the problem to their family ... Psychiatric injuryimpAir the objectivity ... In contrast to physical violence, leaving visible scars, psychological violence leaves few clues to physics and society is not yet able to detect psychiatric injury.
We have more on this in the last ten years? Perhaps, but there is another reason to reconsider this book now. Even if a lot of work in the creation of facilities and resources for children who are in distress or feeling under pressure is gone, one wonders how well you can, when the pressureand the extra work teachers have accumulated in the name of academic standards and social workers and social budgets are cut to the bone. At the same time, the breakdown of families and social problems on the rise - and there are many signs in the personal stories in the book that a child who is already isolated from family problems or agitated silence much more likely to be problems in the playground, we need always looking for signs ofWoe.
But what are the signs? Consider the extraordinarily detailed and comprehensive investigation into action when a child is killed, and compare them with the search for small, localized and questioning, which triggers a suicide. Even smaller is the answer to something as "trivial" as a child who suddenly does not want to go to school. If parents report bullying in schools, teachers or heads can be 'a word with "or" deal with "the children involved. How do we knowworked? Experts interviewed in the state of new book that noisily confident that if a school should "not be a problem with bullying," the parents look very closely - the statement is probably a sign that the school does not know is where and how you look or simply do not have the time.
There is no doubt that there are some excellent anti-bullying projects in recent years, some schools and community groups launched a number of school children were themselves;The stories of past projects, some of the most beautiful parts of this book - but the main reason why I recommend buying a copy of "would Bullycide: Death at Playtime" is the wealth of information it offers, how to recognize situations bully of the first to be critical, how to deal with them when they are doing locally, and even more encouraging, as the institutions do not have to maintain the leadership of bullying situations.
How does it work? There are some answers to that of author Neil MarrThe article on his blog, was published the day he launched his new book.
Bullycide: Death at Playtime
Neil Marr and Tim Field
ISBN 978 1 896609 97 9
UK £ 12.21